Marina Mahathir's Musings

Today she writes abt feminism, page 46 of The Star. and i agree quite a bit. there are a few choice phrases:

* if your doctor is a woman, thank a feminist
* if you can hv birth control prescribed to you without first obtaining your husband's permission, thank a feminist
* if you expect to be considered for university admission based on your results and not your gender, thank a feminist
* if you can drive, thank a feminist

there are so many more, but these are the ones that struck a chord. i once read a book written by an american who's husband was from Iran, more like an autobiography, where she was having an IUD when she went to Iran, and when things went wrong and she could be caught for practising birth control, she removed the IUD herself! and everyone is subject to paternal laws NO MATTER WHAT. utterly ridiculous! and yet this still happens.

i mean, i dont consider myself a feminist per se, but i think that women have more to offer than babies and its up to us to prove that. chivalry is great if you ask me (i love doors being opened for me and when he takes off my coat and pulls out my chair etc) but so is fairplay.. like if your bf wants you to cook, fine (i mean, i cant cook to save my life), but then who washes up? good question eh? but dont take it to an extreme where even if he's sick in bed, you demand tht he washes up la. that would be just plain stupid. unless you're trying to dump him that is.. heheheheheh. pure evil. so sue me ;-)

and since we are on this topic, this months's cleo has an article abt the best cars for women. and guess what? more than half, in fact i think 8 out of the 10 cars are "short cars" know what i mean? like they have no boot space. geddit? like the myvi and kancil and hyundai getz and suzuki swift and savvy and kia picanto and all those small kinda cars. i mean - WHY????

and why do more and more women keep buying those cars? what are they trying to prove? what - its like women cant handle big cars? they cant park (let alone reverse park) to save their lives? i reverse park better than dadddeeeee and i LOVE big cars, gimme a camry or a cefiro anyday. and i LUUURRRVVVVEEE driving my cousin's Hilux. and i love the rexton cos it makes you feel like you are driving a machine (well, technically you are), but its like you can run people off the road.. heheheh.. oops, shouldnt have said that.. ;-)

but seriously - why do women get stuck with small cars? some work for the feminists eh? well, actually come to think of it, even i am guilty of condemning women. especially in driving. and they seriously cant drive (well so cant some men) - its like its psychological - people condemn your driving and you actually start believing that your driving sucks.

and since we are on the topic of men, i even enjoy the company of men better than women. well not all women la (tres, you are still loved. and roslin, amanda and ling - we should do tgif again sometime. and all the women whom i spend some time with but forget to mention), but quite a lot. men are so laid back and open minded and they can talk without being sensitive (works both ways - you say something totally out of line and they're are ok with it - do tht to a girlfren and you'll hv to deal with some sniffling and backstabbing; but guys are also less sensitive to your feelings when they say something, its a guy thing, and its up to you to just shake it off your back cos you know they dont mean it).

well, the power of society i guess, just adds pressure to women and only a strong woman can ignore it. like if you're 40 and not married and everyone thinks there's something wrong. WHY? and if you bark a little at some doofus who screwed up at work, the first thing they say is "oh, she's not married and not getting any". welllll, what makes you think not married = not getting any? especially in this day and age?

which leads me to another subject - why does almost everyone "fall in love" between 16 - 28? true love can be found at any age. the reason is tht its the most CONVENIENT age to fall in love, get married, buy a house and have kids. in that order. so if your priorities are different (like yours truly), age is just a number.

well, i'm rambling (again) and i wanna go tapau maggi goreng for dinner so i'll leave with this quote i found in my notebook today: "live with no excuses and love with no regrets", and kudos to all those who are doing that right now ;-)